CHERISH AND REMEMBER VICTIMS OF COVID-19

A Free Memorial Website

“The living owe it to those who no longer can speak to tell their story for them.”

Czesław Miłosz

 

WHO WE ARE

Our mission is to enable family members, friends, and loved ones of Covid-19 victims to honor, cherish, and remember their loved ones via this free online memorial site.  Grieving family and friends can share memories, photos, recollections of loved ones, and post obituaries.  We hope that this process of sharing memories will lessen the pain of loss, and allow family members to grieve together — perhaps for some, for the first time, as pandemic precautions have reshaped how we honor whom we have lost, and how we achieve closure.

We offer this website to anyone who has experienced loss during this pandemic, whether it was directly or indirectly related to Covid-19. Loss during this time is unlike loss at any other time. Regardless of the cause, it is a uniquely devastating and lonely time to say goodbye to someone you love.

We hope this memorial site will start those who have lost loved ones during this time down the path of remembrance and, hopefully, assist in their journey from grief to healing.  We also hope that this website can provide a sense of community and togetherness to those experiencing grief during such a lonely time. Unlike many other memorial websites, this platform is free and accessible to all, and will remain as such. 

If you have something you would like to share, please click the "Share a Memory" button below.

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RECENTLY SHARED MEMORIES

 

KEY PEOPLE

 
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BARBARA QUACKENBOS

Founder

Barbara Quackenbos lives in South Orange, NJ.  She graduated with honors from Princeton University in 1982 and from New York University School of Law in 1988.  She has been a healthcare lawyer for more than 30 years.  

When the Covid-19 pandemic began to wreak havoc in New York and New Jersey, Barbara wondered what she could do to make a difference.  After hearing Rachel Maddow’s April 1, 2020 MSNBC broadcast reminding viewers that each and every Covid-19 victim deserved to be remembered, Barbara was inspired to create this memorial site accessible to everyone.  She hopes it will help families express their grief and loss, and begin the path to healing by sharing and memorializing.  

She dedicates this project to her mother, Eleanor Smith Quackenbos, who died on July 5, 1980.  Barbara was not able to say goodbye before her mother died. Another inspiration for this website is her close friend and confidante over the past 28 years who has lost three immediate family members to this pandemic. She hopes to ease the deep grief caused by the inability of families and friends to say goodbye to Covid-19 victims before they died. 

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CHLOE PRIEBE

Founder

Chloe Priebe and Barbara began working together on this project in the Spring of 2020, just as Covid-19 began to take hold in the United States. What began as a moment in time has grown into a new era, an unprecedented time. One in which it is difficult to cope, and make sense of the constant grief. Having experienced loss herself throughout this pandemic, Chloe is passionate about creating a space in which it is possible to remember those we have lost, together, while also finding some sense of community in the loss.

After investigating existing memorial websites, it became immediately clear that a difference could be made with this project. The ultimate goal for Chloe was this: creating a memorial with us (C&R) could be free, and the burden would fall to us, not the visitors and mourners, to keep these memorials, as well as a community gathering place, alive and accessible. 

Chloe has a background in design and spends much of her time working in the arts or trying to find new ways to help people. This is actually the first website-- hopefully of many-- that she has ever designed and she could not imagine a better first project. Chloe wants to dedicate her work on this project to the three people she couldn't say a proper goodbye to in the Spring of 2020: Robert Northrup, Don Reilly, and Sam Engel. She thinks of them every time she works on this site, and hopes that you will think of them, too.

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“'There is no death, daughter. People die only when we forget them', my mother explained shortly before she left me. 
'If you can remember me, I will be with you always.'”

Isabel Allende, Eva Luna​